"Death creates context for our lives. My entire life is leading up to that point". - Alua Arthur, a Death Doula from Los Angeles 

I recently started an HR role for a local Home Health and Hospice agency in California. My time spent in the Hospice wing has exponentially changed my life 360 degrees. 

I want to share the knowledge I gained over the course of a few months:

- Our job titles, career goals, and the money we make aren't topics we discuss on our deathbeds - they are all merely a means to pay bills and purchase life experiences

- Our time here on earth is limited - take up every opportunity that your soul and heart desire

- We are all actively "dying" every day - recognize this and learn to savor each moment of the day

- We all wind up having an ailment/disease - enjoy the body and health you have now

- Get your affairs in order with every person, place, and thing now - everything perishes 

- There are no accidents or mistakes in life - everything is a life lesson and gets you to the next chapter 

- There is no need to write a "legacy" - every action we take is how we will be remembered and talked about 

- It's never too early to start planning a "Last Will and Testament" - it will help your family members be less stressed about making decisions and be able to focus on spending quality time with you 

- Although health, nutrition, and fitness are important - so is eating that piece of cake, those fries, etc... 

- Lastly, let people merge into that traffic lane - yes, you're tired and trying to get home, but so is the other person. That elevated blood pressure is killing you more than you know. 

Death and dying is a topic that most of us don't want to talk about or acknowledge, but I believe we must normalize something that is a part of life. Everything we know expires (ex: those roses you bought, that bag of salad mix you didn't eat, a car battery, a tv, a cell phone, etc).

I actively choose to enjoy all life's pleasures and pains. With that said, I will be enrolling myself to become a certified Death Doula. This work is an important part of me and my life's mission. 

A question to ask yourself:

"What must I do to be at peace with myself, so that I may live presently, and die gracefully. Holding both at the same time". - Alua Arthur, a Death Doula from Los Angeles

It can be far too easy to forget that we are spiritual beings first and foremost and that we have a human experience second. Often, we can feel that the Universe is conspiring against us by being dealt interesting life cards. 

I can personally attest to several points in my past/current life where I have felt very attacked by the Universe and have even cursed its name as events unfolded. Through continuous years of Psychological therapy sessions, self-development, getting to know my shadow self, healing childhood trauma, and improving my relationship with God/Source/Universe/Divine Energy, I am becoming more aware of my true, authentic self. I am still very much attached to this material world/plane and my desired outcomes, but I am getting into the better habit of grounding myself in the fact that “I am a spirit having a human experience”. 

Having this mentality helps me actualize that everything here on Earth is merely an experience that I am meant to have. I am also learning that I cannot control anything outside of my body, but that I can control how I choose to react to it all. Understanding this has made all the difference in the quality of my life and how I choose to live moving forward. 

Can I entertain you with a thought that was given to me years ago? What if I told you that you hand-selected every single experience you have gone through, are currently going through, and will go through in life? 

What if I told you that you made a soul contract before you incarnated on Earth, and you have agreed to go through various specific experiences? What if I told you that the Gods/Goddesses applaud us for choosing to come to Earth to learn all its different aspects? Planet Earth is the densest and heaviest of all the planets, therefore, it makes sense why life on planet Earth can be so interesting. 

The reason I am telling you that you selected every single experience you have gone through, are currently going through, and will go through in life is so that you can have more compassion for yourself first and foremost, but so that you can also have compassion for others. 

When you can start to de-compartmentalize everything as “good” or “bad” and learn to view everything as merely an experience for your growth, both pleasurable and painful, then you, too, can learn to trust in the Universe and know that everything is perfect, and is working out in your highest good and alignment/favor.